Why is this relevant? Well I figure it this way. I’ve discovered that I’m happiest during times when I am having a good time presently, when I also can remember having good times in the past, and can expect good times in the future. My prime example of this is televised Saturday Morning Cartoons. Nearly every Saturday of my youth the most wonderfully enjoyable best feeling animated series’ would air and I would look forward to seeing them (future), I would enjoy them incredibly while they played (present – usually the dominant thought), and I could rely on how good they were due to past Saturdays (past). Having three ideas in mind fulfilled my three thought threshold and because all of them were fulfilling, it caused my current experience to bolster and overflow with the good each idea contributed to the collective thus making that time a dream I never wanted to end. Not only that, but the state of elation I was in caused me to see perfection elsewhere, I can remember loving the way the morning light brightened the world. How it coruscated upon the trees and the way poured into the windows was ethereal.

Applying this “Psychology of Saturday” as it were, to the greater picture of life itself. I’ve discovered by aligning of all three states of time in a unified and authentic way enough to cause an emotional response in us, life is entirely fulfilling (I’ve also discovered when entertaining anything less in mind, life is below par). I consider Career, Social, and Lifestyle pursuits a sort of three for three in and of itself, not to mention application to each idea individually via the threefold time line (past, present, and future good within each concept).

Career to my mind is what makes life worth living via our purpose in the eyes of society, it’s our addition to the cumulative movement of humanity into greater and greater technology, efficiency, and happiness. For that reason to me career isn’t necessarily about making a livelihood or about money (in my view that’s what business, investment, and finance is for). The idea is when you feel worthy, a positive part of the world’s forces of good, that’s one dimension of fulfillment. Now for the other two.

The social arena is then the backdrop for personal fulfillment. It’s compassion, kindness, and our value both in our own eyes and the eyes of those around us. It’s our reality (or agreement between people as to what exists) that we’re validated and wanted. It sounds somewhat pathetic to the machismo independent male mentality but really without it, we’d lose our minds.

Last but definitely not least is Lifestyle. Lifestyle is having the quality of life we want. Particularly our being in the proper socio-economic layer, having the proper material possessions we’d like, and being able to do the things we’d like to do. Lifestyle is generally a reference to the acclaimed superficial aspects of modern life. Beauty and such. Interior design, designer clothes, hot cars, and as beautiful of people as we can pull into our sphere of influence or that’s what it specifically means to me. To someone else is could mean being able to read a book when they want to read it. Lifestyle is being able to do what you want to do, how you want to do it, not only in quality but also when we’d like.

So not only does each of these three categories formulate a mind brimming satisfaction. But each one of the categories, each dimension of life, also can be fulfilling during each individual phase via time line (past/present/future). This is my way to fulfill myself in life. Before I’ve had any career credentials, I used my time toward self improvement and dreaming to make my dreams seem more realistic and attainable which feels very contenting.

I feel if we think about something long enough, it’ll start to drive us crazy unless we do something about it. So from there we have a choice to make. Keep thinking the thought and continue along to do something about it before we go mad or stop thinking the thought altogether and fall back into old habits, mundane routine, and the proverbial hamster wheel. In that way, I find Dreams and Action are related. I do agree they’re two entirely different actions involving two completely contrasting sets of muscle memory/neuro-network. But there is a mental place where thoughts lead to action, specifically if you really really want something to the point of having a new life standard about it, to not being physically able to be without the condition, to preferring demise to having to live a life without that condition (hence why certain rich commit suicide when they lose their fortune under depressions). I feel when we keep our mind filled, constantly occupied, with the good of our world and our potential to feel good within it life can’t help but be amazing, with or without taking action on our dreams yet if we keep those dreams in mind long enough, given they aren’t contradicted in our minds with self-doubt, negativity, etc., we’ll soon have a choice to make and the right answer will prove very fulfilling.

This is a great article, with real insight but very practical. I think “Enjoy the Action” is really key. This goes counter to how we’re trained in life. School, for example, tends to teach us to muddle through stuff we’re bad at, rather than find the path of least resistance and move on.

Also, the analogy to friction is really helpful. Achievement requires hard work, but if there’s a lot of friction because we’re not enjoying the effort, we won’t make much progress. It’s important to get #1 right before just pushing ourselves to build momentum (wish I’d learned that a long time ago!).

I would suggest one slight adjustment: rather than “Either change your dream or find a way to enjoy the action”, frequently the best choice may be just to modify your dream rather than completely change it.

A lot of musicians, for instance, give up on their dream of being a top performing artist, without realizing there are many other things you can do with such an interest. In fact, I think it most always takes some flexibility in order for someone to really find their ideal role.

I just want to say that what u have written here is really nice I tried some of ur suggestions and am really enjoying it

Thanks Scott for ur valuable suggestions

Regards

Shivaram