Comments on: Don’t Be Yourself http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Money is Energy You Tap Into. Motivation Techniques - Headphones Recommended http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1040284 Money is Energy You Tap Into. Motivation Techniques - Headphones Recommended Wed, 28 Sep 2011 13:21:06 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-1040284 <strong>Achieve Personal Goals. Eliminate Negative Habits and Behaviors...</strong> [...]Don’t Be Yourself « Scott H Young[...]... Achieve Personal Goals. Eliminate Negative Habits and Behaviors…

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]]> By: Rob McPhillips http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-818064 Rob McPhillips Fri, 03 Jun 2011 22:00:26 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-818064 Nice article Scott. While I agree with the spirit of a lot of your post, I disagree with the premise. I'm the last person to defend self help, but I do believe that the route to happiness is... in being yourself. I believe that being yourself is a process of evolution. The conflicts and trials of life are what cause us to develop a refined sense of what we are. Some of this is a matter of deciding what we are, but much is decided by genetics and the circumstances we are born into. Nice article Scott. While I agree with the spirit of a lot of your post, I disagree with the premise. I’m the last person to defend self help, but I do believe that the route to happiness is… in being yourself.

I believe that being yourself is a process of evolution. The conflicts and trials of life are what cause us to develop a refined sense of what we are. Some of this is a matter of deciding what we are, but much is decided by genetics and the circumstances we are born into.

]]> By: Monica http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-419806 Monica Sun, 23 May 2010 22:11:00 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-419806 My main reasons for disliking the statement to "be yourself" are: 1) It doesn't allow for growth and 2) it often includes behaviors/personality traits that at not self-ascribed, but "others-inscribed"--for lack of a better word. Finally think of it it in story format, you're looking all over for a job and let's say you're normally someone who makes crude jokes or racist statements (hey if you're with like-minded people, great) and you make these statements at the interview consider your likelihood of getting this position. This goes to show why it it not always a good idea to "be yourself"--sometimes "acting" is necessary to get where we need to be and to eventually grow as individuals---well unless we choose not to grow. My main reasons for disliking the statement to “be yourself” are: 1) It doesn’t allow for growth and 2) it often includes behaviors/personality traits that at not self-ascribed, but “others-inscribed”–for lack of a better word. Finally think of it it in story format, you’re looking all over for a job and let’s say you’re normally someone who makes crude jokes or racist statements (hey if you’re with like-minded people, great) and you make these statements at the interview consider your likelihood of getting this position. This goes to show why it it not always a good idea to “be yourself”–sometimes “acting” is necessary to get where we need to be and to eventually grow as individuals—well unless we choose not to grow.

]]> By: yezt http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-369299 yezt Wed, 23 Dec 2009 07:22:14 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-369299 I found this article when I got bored and googled the phrase, "don't be yourself." As cynical as it may seem, I'm glad there are others who find the notion of "being yourself" vague and mindless. If only we could get the message through to all the teenagers with blogs... I found this article when I got bored and googled the phrase, “don’t be yourself.” As cynical as it may seem, I’m glad there are others who find the notion of “being yourself” vague and mindless.

If only we could get the message through to all the teenagers with blogs…

]]> By: Why I Hate Self-Help Platitudes « Scott H Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-360420 Why I Hate Self-Help Platitudes « Scott H Young Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:02:12 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-360420 [...] Be yourself [...] [...] Be yourself [...]

]]> By: Miranda http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-351810 Miranda Sun, 30 Aug 2009 04:55:33 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-351810 Hi :) I am using idea from this article for my English assignment. I don't think it is exactly the message you were trying to put forward when youw ere writing htis, but my topic is 'You should not be able to be yourself' Mirandaaa, Brisbane Hi :)
I am using idea from this article for my English assignment. I don’t think it is exactly the message you were trying to put forward when youw ere writing htis, but my topic is ‘You should not be able to be yourself’
Mirandaaa, Brisbane

]]> By: Self Awareness Will Lead to the Life You Always Imagined : Brazen Careerist - A Career Center for Generation Y http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-222279 Self Awareness Will Lead to the Life You Always Imagined : Brazen Careerist - A Career Center for Generation Y Wed, 30 Jul 2008 06:05:52 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-222279 [...] “Be Yourself” is a popular piece of advice. Everyone likes to hear it, yet what does it really mean? The Ancient Greeks said to “Know Thyself,” but why is it so important to know who you are? The concept of Self is not that clear, yet we all seem to sense a pattern of qualities, traits and characteristics that are completely one’s own. [...] [...] “Be Yourself” is a popular piece of advice. Everyone likes to hear it, yet what does it really mean? The Ancient Greeks said to “Know Thyself,” but why is it so important to know who you are? The concept of Self is not that clear, yet we all seem to sense a pattern of qualities, traits and characteristics that are completely one’s own. [...]

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-221941 Scott Young Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:18:03 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-221941 Fran, I'd agree with you. Really it's how you interpret the advice of "be yourself". For me, I think it's too short, allowing you to interpret it in many different ways--which also means it's useless to give as advice. I think authenticity and independence are important traits, but I think the notion of "being yourself" has a lot more depth than a catchphrase. Thanks for the comments. -Scott Fran,

I’d agree with you. Really it’s how you interpret the advice of “be yourself”. For me, I think it’s too short, allowing you to interpret it in many different ways–which also means it’s useless to give as advice.

I think authenticity and independence are important traits, but I think the notion of “being yourself” has a lot more depth than a catchphrase. Thanks for the comments.

-Scott

]]> By: Francesca http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-221513 Francesca Mon, 28 Jul 2008 18:59:06 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-221513 Thank you!!!! You don't know how long I have been scouring the internet in hopes that someone else more eloquent that I was fed up with psychotherapy "authenticity." Or just people fed up with the BS of people claiming to "just be themselves." This is a public service. Moreover, what does being yourself even mean? Aren't we always changing? Shouldn't we try to change for the better. I'm not a relativist either, so I think there is a better. Thank you!!!! You don’t know how long I have been scouring the internet in hopes that someone else more eloquent that I was fed up with psychotherapy “authenticity.” Or just people fed up with the BS of people claiming to “just be themselves.” This is a public service.

Moreover, what does being yourself even mean? Aren’t we always changing? Shouldn’t we try to change for the better. I’m not a relativist either, so I think there is a better.

]]> By: Scott H Young » Friday Links 08-05-16 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-197270 Scott H Young » Friday Links 08-05-16 Wed, 28 May 2008 18:49:07 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2006/10/10/dont-be-yourself/#comment-197270 [...] Don’t Be Yourself - One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is “Whether you try to or not, you can’t be anything but yourself.” I think it is important to be authentic and original, but “being yourself” can be an excuse to surrender to any limitations you’ve had in your past. [...] [...] Don’t Be Yourself – One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is “Whether you try to or not, you can’t be anything but yourself.” I think it is important to be authentic and original, but “being yourself” can be an excuse to surrender to any limitations you’ve had in your past. [...]

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