Insightful comments as always.

As for showing vulnerabilities, I don’t think it is about how much you show, but how you frame them. Whether it’s dating or business, conveying your vulnerabilities to imply that you’re a complete loser who is barely dealing with life isn’t going to work. But if you omit all vulnerabilities, that leaves people to suspect you are hiding them (which you usually are) and assume the worst.

Ferrazzi’s examples show good framing. Talking with someone who recently ran a marathon, he says how he was impressed, and that due to an injury he couldn’t make it through the training. It shows he’s human but he doesn’t complain or make it seem he is otherwise weak or deficient.

Again, this is a skill that takes some practice as I’m sure you know.

-Scott

Thanks

I’m adding this book to my “toread” list right now. Some comments:

“Getting the right people on board”: yeah, that should be one of the top priorities, if not the top itself, in any collaborative endeavor.

“Your Weaknesses are Your Strengths”: I don’t know if the author gives some caveats to this. In my experience, showing some vulnerabilities demonstrates that you are human (it’s hard to connerct with Mr. Perfect. But showing many of them will make people think you lack a spine.

Specially when relating to girls, if she senses you’re too vulnerable and emotional, you’re toast. But if you’re Mr. Perfect it’s bad too. It’s best to show some small vulnerabilies, always showing also that you’re not obsessed or worried about them (i.e. you accept yourself with all your little, unimportant imperfections).

“Pinging” is easy and fast with msn messenger, or other alternative instant messaging program. I’m a rather big fan of this.

“Other people are not efficient”. Yeah. Ask me how I know this

“Be Yourself”. Totally agreed. Being yourself is OK when “yourself” is already good at something. I always prefer “be congruent with the person you want to become”.

Cya,

Wulfen (Lobo Feroz)