Comments on: The Power of Humility: Why Confidence is Overrated http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:53:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: vitor(Portugal) http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-1195999 vitor(Portugal) Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:30:59 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-1195999 I did enjoy your article. It was very useful to me and very appropriate, specially today. Humillty is self knowledge. When You know exactly what you are. Is not when you thing you are more than what you are(pride) or less than what you are (low self esteem). I did enjoy your article.
It was very useful to me and very appropriate, specially today. Humillty is self knowledge. When You know exactly what you are. Is not when you thing you are more than what you are(pride) or less than what you are (low self esteem).

]]> By: Social Natural http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-869877 Social Natural Wed, 06 Jul 2011 21:09:39 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-869877 You know Scott, you and I think the same. I've written an article about this: http://www.socialnatural.com/2010/the-myth-about-confidence-how-to-truly-build-confidence/ My definition of confidence is it's nothing more than the absence of fear. You can be confident for one day, but that doesn't mean you will be confident the next. Being skilled in whatever you're doing is much more important, than way, you will have the skill to back up that confidence every time. You know Scott, you and I think the same. I’ve written an article about this:

http://www.socialnatural.com/2010/the-myth-about-confidence-how-to-truly-build-confidence/

My definition of confidence is it’s nothing more than the absence of fear. You can be confident for one day, but that doesn’t mean you will be confident the next. Being skilled in whatever you’re doing is much more important, than way, you will have the skill to back up that confidence every time.

]]> By: chloe http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-706081 chloe Wed, 09 Mar 2011 18:50:17 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-706081 Humility is when you know your limitations, and then you have the courage to drop them. Humility is when you know your limitations, and then you have the courage to drop them.

]]> By: Ed Graves Radiant Barrier http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-455759 Ed Graves Radiant Barrier Thu, 19 Aug 2010 17:33:07 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-455759 I agree that humility is good. Though it reminds me of a quote: "Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength." - Frances de Sales I agree that humility is good. Though it reminds me of a quote: “Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength.” – Frances de Sales

]]> By: Da http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-405309 Da Sat, 24 Apr 2010 17:14:45 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-405309 This is an interesting article. I was just having thoughts about how confidence is actually overrated, which I have never thought about before...Its kinda like a discovery for me. Then I googled and wanted to see if there are already such discussions. And there you are.. And I also want to point out that sometimes its not easy for some people to fight the faked confidence, especially when they are around a bunch of "talented" people, who might or might not be actually talented, but give u the impression that they are. Very often what happens in this kind of enviroment is, when u dont stand out even in a faked way, u simply get ignored... Anyway, in my personal opinion, its often difficult for fresh people to learn to be humility rather than faked confident...It usually takes time for us to observe and understand what is going on under the surface..and surely at the same time to build up or realize ur own strength, till one point, it comes in a natural way to get there where u can express urself in a humility way with actual confidence inside. This is an interesting article. I was just having thoughts about how confidence is actually overrated, which I have never thought about before…Its kinda like a discovery for me. Then I googled and wanted to see if there are already such discussions. And there you are..
And I also want to point out that sometimes its not easy for some people to fight the faked confidence, especially when they are around a bunch of “talented” people, who might or might not be actually talented, but give u the impression that they are. Very often what happens in this kind of enviroment is, when u dont stand out even in a faked way, u simply get ignored…
Anyway, in my personal opinion, its often difficult for fresh people to learn to be humility rather than faked confident…It usually takes time for us to observe and understand what is going on under the surface..and surely at the same time to build up or realize ur own strength, till one point, it comes in a natural way to get there where u can express urself in a humility way with actual confidence inside.

]]> By: Christoph Dollis http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-384810 Christoph Dollis Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:25:47 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-384810 <blockquote>I make a distinction between temporary, emotional, “psyched up” confidence and the more longterm, stable confidence that comes from a logical assessment of your abilities (and concluding they’re good).</blockquote> I think what you're describing at the end is <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-efficacy" rel="nofollow">"self-efficacy"</a>.

I make a distinction between temporary, emotional, “psyched up” confidence and the more longterm, stable confidence that comes from a logical assessment of your abilities (and concluding they’re good).

I think what you’re describing at the end is “self-efficacy”.

]]> By: Nell http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-368686 Nell Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:33:01 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-368686 I love this article. I believe humilty is the calm acknowledgement of our limitations : I acknowledge that I don't know, I acknowlegde that I cannot. It actally unlocks our personal power and makes us confident. This is why I do not oppose humulity and confidence. I don't think that a balance should be found between the two. I believe that humility is the mother of confidence. I love this article. I believe humilty is the calm acknowledgement of our limitations : I acknowledge that I don’t know, I acknowlegde that I cannot. It actally unlocks our personal power and makes us confident. This is why I do not oppose humulity and confidence. I don’t think that a balance should be found between the two. I believe that humility is the mother of confidence.

]]> By: tdipaolo http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-364684 tdipaolo Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:59:56 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-364684 Scott, as I re-read your article, it occurs to me that your description of humility under "Humility Is Not Low Self-Esteem", centered around the "unkown" does feel right, and it is likely one of the aspects of the concept that I am trying to form in my mind. But I agree with Derrick and Mak regarding the meaning of confidence. I believe confidence is a good quality. If one says "I have looked at what we have to do, at what the risks are, and at our capabilities, and I believe we can succeed", to me, that is a show of confidence (trust) in one-self and in others. One may also miscalculate the risks or capabilities and because of it be overconfident and pay a price for the error. But his/her overconfidence is not a weakness per se because the motives and attitude behind are not wrong. But if ones says "I've done this before and I can get us through it!" with a self-centered or patronizing manner and without connection to reality, then that is arrogance - not confidence or overconfidence. Still, my question remains about humility. Is there a definition of it we all could agree with; is it good or is it bad? Scott,

as I re-read your article, it occurs to me that your description of humility under “Humility Is Not Low Self-Esteem”, centered around the “unkown” does feel right, and it is likely one of the aspects of the concept that I am trying to form in my mind.

But I agree with Derrick and Mak regarding the meaning of confidence. I believe confidence is a good quality. If one says “I have looked at what we have to do, at what the risks are, and at our capabilities, and I believe we can succeed”, to me, that is a show of confidence (trust) in one-self and in others. One may also miscalculate the risks or capabilities and because of it be overconfident and pay a price for the error. But his/her overconfidence is not a weakness per se because the motives and attitude behind are not wrong. But if ones says “I’ve done this before and I can get us through it!” with a self-centered or patronizing manner and without connection to reality, then that is arrogance – not confidence or overconfidence.

Still, my question remains about humility. Is there a definition of it we all could agree with; is it good or is it bad?

]]> By: tdipaolo http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-364672 tdipaolo Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:48:10 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-364672 I have been researching the topic of humility because I want to teach my kids about it. However, there is quite a diversity of opinion on what it means to be humble, even among great thinkers and philosophers. Your view of the notion is the msot meaningful I have found, but I am still uncertain I understand what the concept means or that "Humility" is what integrates what I am looking for. I am looking for the thought that wil allow me to tell my kids how to be in life, how to be in the face of a challenge, in the face of achievement and success, how to be in the company of other human beings no matter where they may seem to stand relative to them. This is the guiding principle I am looking for. Does humility encapsulate it, and it is a positive, construtive concept? Or do we need another term to contain the meaning that you seem to refer to in your article, and which is the meaning we are looging for? I know what I see in my mind, and what I wish to express to my kids, but I do not know how to say it, and I do not know if "humility" describes it. I have been researching the topic of humility because I want to teach my kids about it. However, there is quite a diversity of opinion on what it means to be humble, even among great thinkers and philosophers.

Your view of the notion is the msot meaningful I have found, but I am still uncertain I understand what the concept means or that “Humility” is what integrates what I am looking for.

I am looking for the thought that wil allow me to tell my kids how to be in life, how to be in the face of a challenge, in the face of achievement and success, how to be in the company of other human beings no matter where they may seem to stand relative to them.

This is the guiding principle I am looking for. Does humility encapsulate it, and it is a positive, construtive concept? Or do we need another term to contain the meaning that you seem to refer to in your article, and which is the meaning we are looging for?

I know what I see in my mind, and what I wish to express to my kids, but I do not know how to say it, and I do not know if “humility” describes it.

]]> By: shubha http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/comment-page-1/#comment-360620 shubha Fri, 16 Oct 2009 05:27:47 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/08/30/the-power-of-humility-why-confidence-is-overrated/#comment-360620 Good post. I stumbled upon it today and am enjoying reading every post. Humility is one of the important traits to realize self and its potential. thanks. Good post. I stumbled upon it today and am enjoying reading every post. Humility is one of the important traits to realize self and its potential. thanks.

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