Comments on: How to Not Want Things and Still Be Happy http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:53:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: bruno http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-865027 bruno Mon, 04 Jul 2011 04:35:08 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-865027 Nice post. When it comes right down to it, how people process their wins or losses determines the true value of such outcomes. Process is realy all we have as oppossed to outcomes. Many reach their goals only to be unhappy with the way they have managed their success--i.e., they did not focus on the post success process! Nice post. When it comes right down to it, how people process their wins or losses determines the true value of such outcomes. Process is realy all we have as oppossed to outcomes. Many reach their goals only to be unhappy with the way they have managed their success–i.e., they did not focus on the post success process!

]]> By: riaz http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-663369 riaz Sat, 05 Feb 2011 07:05:42 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-663369 Once I heard Will Smitt said that If you want to build a wall, don't make it as a goal. Just focus on single brick a day and place that single brick with as mcuh perfection as it could be. after some time, you will have a beautiful wall....I like that idea but you named it for me and I am sure, I am gonna make use of it in life. Thanks Once I heard Will Smitt said that If you want to build a wall, don’t make it as a goal. Just focus on single brick a day and place that single brick with as mcuh perfection as it could be. after some time, you will have a beautiful wall….I like that idea but you named it for me and I am sure, I am gonna make use of it in life. Thanks

]]> By: Pragmatic Optimism: How Your Fears and Doubts Can Allow You to Succeed « Scott H Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-393919 Pragmatic Optimism: How Your Fears and Doubts Can Allow You to Succeed « Scott H Young Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:08:54 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-393919 [...] Adding images and graphics to articles. [...] [...] Adding images and graphics to articles. [...]

]]> By: Antonio http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-377774 Antonio Sat, 30 Jan 2010 10:33:03 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-377774 Thank you for covering this subject! I like the idea that attachment(desire) is the root of suffering, but finding a reason for goals then has been the great dilemma I've been going through regarding Buddhism. Thank you for covering this subject! I like the idea that attachment(desire) is the root of suffering, but finding a reason for goals then has been the great dilemma I’ve been going through regarding Buddhism.

]]> By: Emily http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-333513 Emily Sat, 04 Jul 2009 03:22:23 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-333513 Dear Scott, I am trying to not want big things so much, and trying to have a more positive attitude on giving things up. I hope it won't take as long as it feels it will. . .but I'll keep trying. Dear Scott,

I am trying to not want big things so much, and trying to have a more positive attitude on giving things up. I hope it won’t take as long as it feels it will. . .but I’ll keep trying.

]]> By: Geros mintys iš gerų žmonių (Lapkričio 16 d.) at geriau negu vakar, blogiau negu rytoj. http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-84539 Geros mintys iš gerų žmonių (Lapkričio 16 d.) at geriau negu vakar, blogiau negu rytoj. Fri, 16 Nov 2007 12:55:57 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-84539 [...] straipsnio “How to Not Want Things and Still Be Happy” dalis yra grafikas, kuriame matai būseną prieš įsigijant kokį daiktą, jį įsigijus ir… [...] [...] straipsnio “How to Not Want Things and Still Be Happy” dalis yra grafikas, kuriame matai būseną prieš įsigijant kokį daiktą, jį įsigijus ir… [...]

]]> By: Link Karma - 5 November 2007 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-72370 Link Karma - 5 November 2007 Mon, 05 Nov 2007 16:01:57 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-72370 [...] Scott H Young had some truly excellent articles last month. My favourites were The Art of The Finish and the process focused series that started with How to Not Want Things and Still Be Happy. [...] [...] Scott H Young had some truly excellent articles last month. My favourites were The Art of The Finish and the process focused series that started with How to Not Want Things and Still Be Happy. [...]

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-71137 Scott Young Sat, 03 Nov 2007 12:26:57 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-71137 Chika, Good point. Survival comes first. I wouldn't suggest starving yourself or being unable to pay the rent. But survival isn't the critical issue for most people. I know people who have never had a moment near starvation in their life. Sure, there are people who manage to rack up too much debt or live a lifestyle they can't afford. But that is different than actually being close to death. This philosophy has nothing to do with that. It has to do with the goals you set and your preoccupation with them. Is this something I believe? Everything I write is something I believe and I refuse to regurgitate anything. More importantly this is something I practice. Process IS more important to me than results and I have become happier as a consequence. Hence, my decision to write about it here. Chika,

Good point. Survival comes first. I wouldn’t suggest starving yourself or being unable to pay the rent. But survival isn’t the critical issue for most people.

I know people who have never had a moment near starvation in their life. Sure, there are people who manage to rack up too much debt or live a lifestyle they can’t afford. But that is different than actually being close to death.

This philosophy has nothing to do with that. It has to do with the goals you set and your preoccupation with them.

Is this something I believe? Everything I write is something I believe and I refuse to regurgitate anything. More importantly this is something I practice. Process IS more important to me than results and I have become happier as a consequence. Hence, my decision to write about it here.

]]> By: chika http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-70820 chika Fri, 02 Nov 2007 21:08:59 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-70820 Excuse me, but this is all very trite and nothing more than platitudes Supposing the thing you want so much is integral to your existence? Do you just say "Ohmmmmm" and stare off into the existence and hope it appears on the horizon somewhere? Supposing you have been doing that for the last 3 years and it hasn't made an appearance, then what? I don't think your post works for everyone. It's so easy to sit there and terribly philosophical about things when you don't have to scratch your head everyday and wonder how you're going to pay your rent. Do you actually believe what you've written or is it something you've read somewhere and you've decided to regurgitate here? Excuse me, but this is all very trite and nothing more than platitudes

Supposing the thing you want so much is integral to your existence? Do you just say “Ohmmmmm” and stare off into the existence and hope it appears on the horizon somewhere? Supposing you have been doing that for the last 3 years and it hasn’t made an appearance, then what?

I don’t think your post works for everyone. It’s so easy to sit there and terribly philosophical about things when you don’t have to scratch your head everyday and wonder how you’re going to pay your rent.

Do you actually believe what you’ve written or is it something you’ve read somewhere and you’ve decided to regurgitate here?

]]> By: Gary http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-66574 Gary Wed, 24 Oct 2007 22:18:13 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/10/16/how-to-not-want-things-and-still-be-happy/#comment-66574 Another great post, Scott. Thanks for researching this stuff for the rest of us. As far as focusing on the process and not being obsessed with the ultimate goal, Coach John Wooden is one of the greatest examples of living this out. While he was marching through 10 NCAA championships, he didn't talk about winning, but focused daily on the process of making his players better players and better people as well. Ultimately the winning took care of itself. Another great post, Scott. Thanks for researching this stuff for the rest of us.

As far as focusing on the process and not being obsessed with the ultimate goal, Coach John Wooden is one of the greatest examples of living this out. While he was marching through 10 NCAA championships, he didn’t talk about winning, but focused daily on the process of making his players better players and better people as well. Ultimately the winning took care of itself.

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