Comments on: Self-Confidence is an Oxymoron http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Ses http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-290717 Ses Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:07:17 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-290717 Alot of people with no self confidence have achieved great things. look at Kurt Cobain and Jimi Hendrix, they are individual with insecurity problems but they made a good out of it, by using all their pain and emotion on their music. Alot of people with no self confidence have achieved great things. look at Kurt Cobain and Jimi Hendrix, they are individual with insecurity problems but they made a good out of it, by using all their pain and emotion on their music.

]]> By: From blogging to public speaking | Reason-4-Smile Weblog http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-233285 From blogging to public speaking | Reason-4-Smile Weblog Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:24:41 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-233285 [...] I believe you have read or listened a lot about the importance of self-confidence in speaking. It’s true, it’s very important. But how do you achieve it? Here is what Scott suggested… I’d argue that self-confidence is an oxymoron because total confidence means a lack of self… Only when I stop thinking about “me” and focus on the idea I want to cover does the writing become easy. ~Scott H. Young (Self Confidence is an Oxymoron) [...] [...] I believe you have read or listened a lot about the importance of self-confidence in speaking. It’s true, it’s very important. But how do you achieve it? Here is what Scott suggested… I’d argue that self-confidence is an oxymoron because total confidence means a lack of self… Only when I stop thinking about “me” and focus on the idea I want to cover does the writing become easy. ~Scott H. Young (Self Confidence is an Oxymoron) [...]

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-190623 Jennifer Tue, 13 May 2008 11:32:42 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-190623 A really thought provoking article, Scott. I'm not sure I completely agree with your views on confidence, but you really have me thinking ... Thank you! However, I wholeheartedly and absolutely agree with your take on the best way to get over your own "issues" is to get outside yourself. That's the key to wealth, to social confidence, to success in any fashion. It reminds me of a quote I once heard: "most people sit around waiting for the world to give to them, while the world waits for them to give". A really thought provoking article, Scott.

I’m not sure I completely agree with your views on confidence, but you really have me thinking … Thank you!

However, I wholeheartedly and absolutely agree with your take on the best way to get over your own “issues” is to get outside yourself.
That’s the key to wealth, to social confidence, to success in any fashion.

It reminds me of a quote I once heard: “most people sit around waiting for the world to give to them, while the world waits for them to give”.

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189940 Scott Young Sun, 11 May 2008 13:52:37 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189940 Thanks Jeremy Thanks Jeremy

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189661 Jeremy Sat, 10 May 2008 19:50:03 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189661 How are you so smart? This is all so true. Just this morning I was wondering why I always swing from crazy fanatical overconfidence to critical and depressing underconfidence. It all makes sense. Thanks for the great post. How are you so smart? This is all so true. Just this morning I was wondering why I always swing from crazy fanatical overconfidence to critical and depressing underconfidence. It all makes sense. Thanks for the great post.

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189558 Scott Young Sat, 10 May 2008 11:52:51 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189558 Darren, Everything I write could be classified as a wee bit over-analytical. ;) -Scott Darren,

Everything I write could be classified as a wee bit over-analytical. ;)

-Scott

]]> By: Darren http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189351 Darren Fri, 09 May 2008 16:54:10 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189351 I see where you're coming from, I really do. But I think it's a wee bit over-analytical. "Complete confidence" is, to me, the total understanding of exactly where you stand: both what you can and can't do. "Overconfidence" is misrepresenting your abilities to yourself -- believing that you can do what you cannot do. I do agree that overconfidence is often something that results from over correcting for "under-confidence" (aka low self esteem) -- believing that you can't do what you really can. I see where you’re coming from, I really do. But I think it’s a wee bit over-analytical.

“Complete confidence” is, to me, the total understanding of exactly where you stand: both what you can and can’t do. “Overconfidence” is misrepresenting your abilities to yourself — believing that you can do what you cannot do. I do agree that overconfidence is often something that results from over correcting for “under-confidence” (aka low self esteem) — believing that you can’t do what you really can.

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189298 Scott Young Fri, 09 May 2008 11:36:32 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189298 Thanks Robert, It isn't easy to control this "true confidence" but I think if you realize what it is, you have a better chance. Once you realize that thinking about yourself is detrimental to your performance (good or bad) it's easier to emphasize thoughts that move you towards your subject and away from yourself. -Scott Thanks Robert,

It isn’t easy to control this “true confidence” but I think if you realize what it is, you have a better chance. Once you realize that thinking about yourself is detrimental to your performance (good or bad) it’s easier to emphasize thoughts that move you towards your subject and away from yourself.

-Scott

]]> By: Kali http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189173 Kali Fri, 09 May 2008 03:45:46 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189173 Interesting Interesting

]]> By: Robert A. Henru http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/comment-page-1/#comment-189157 Robert A. Henru Fri, 09 May 2008 02:21:47 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2008/05/08/self-confidence-is-an-oxymoron/#comment-189157 As many people said, humility is not thinking less about yourself, it's thinking about yourself less. Scott, this paragraph struck me very much... "When I write, I try to put complete emphasis on the article itself. Thinking about myself, my issues, some negative comment I received or even positive feedback is detrimental to the article. Only when I stop thinking about “me” and focus on the idea I want to cover does the writing become easy." Thank you so much, this article inspired me to change how I write! Too much thinking about me makes me afraid to write, I'm not productive, my schedule messed up, and I even feel worse about myself. True confidence is thinking about ourselves less. Cheers, Robert As many people said, humility is not thinking less about yourself, it’s thinking about yourself less.

Scott, this paragraph struck me very much…
“When I write, I try to put complete emphasis on the article itself. Thinking about myself, my issues, some negative comment I received or even positive feedback is detrimental to the article. Only when I stop thinking about “me” and focus on the idea I want to cover does the writing become easy.”

Thank you so much, this article inspired me to change how I write! Too much thinking about me makes me afraid to write, I’m not productive, my schedule messed up, and I even feel worse about myself. True confidence is thinking about ourselves less.

Cheers,
Robert

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