Thanks
karim – Positive thinking

sure, but what’s you goal? having success or being happy?

as Tony Robbins said, if we take our goals and we ask ourself why we want to achieve that particular goal, the final answer is happiness (or the lack of pain)

I think that’s true

if our goal is to gain some money, to lose weight, or a more noble causes like making the difference in this world, we actually are pursuing them for the special feeling that we think we’ll get from this achievement

I think success without happiness is not a good thing

the problem is: happiness is a complex goal to achieve

Brian Tracy, for example, says that happiness follow the “law of indirect effort”, meaning that you can’t pursue it by himself, but you may get happiness indirectly from other goals.

They’re prescriptive guidance for thought patterns. Think of them as patterns and practices for feeling good.

If you’re a particuarly harsh critic, even on yourself, you can swtich hats to switch your focus. For example, if you always ask what’s wrong, you switch hats and ask what’s right. Usually people fall into the habit of just one hat — the optimist, the Devil’s advocate, the facts/figures. If you know this, you can switch your focus by switching your question. The next time something sucks, just ask – what are 3 things that don’t suck?

That’s true in western culture we HAVE TO be happy…but it’s a no-end race.
I learned how to accept time when I’m not happy and use it to make me stronger. I sometimes look for depressing mood (I mean, not “look for” in fact but don’t fighting against). It helps me to boost my energy afterward and come back in the race with a great smile.

Respect Your State was an article I wrote a few years ago (see the hyperlink in the article) that had a similar message to this article. Namely, that you should respect how you feel at a given moment (whether it’s unhappy, frustrated, bored or content). By respecting that state, you can get the feedback you need to make corrections. I think it ties in nicely to this article.

-Scott

I have this tendency to assume that everybody else does better than me – gets better grades while studying less, parties more, is better looking. I even remember making an A- in one of the hardest economics courses in the school and feeling bad because “surely somebody else got an A.. oh and I bet they are happier than me.. oh and I bet they studied less. Well, just another proof that my life sucks. ”

It’s so sad how one bad thing can spiral down into full blown unhappiness if we start thinking this way.

getting caught in the emotions will delusion us to lose sight of our true interests.

I’m a little bit confused about “Respect you state”. My question is, what is the connection between “Being Unhappy” and “Respecting State”? I don’t get it.

Anyway, keep blogging, and good luck…

-Sofi