Comments on: Ruthless Focus and the Art of Saying No http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:53:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lou http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-522690 Lou Wed, 10 Nov 2010 18:48:30 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-522690 Yeah, this past month I've learned to say no in ways I've been trying to for basically all my life. Still have more to work on. Saying no is key to self-discipline and, as you say, concentration. Currently I'm saying no to being negative, no to unhealthy/excess foods. Now, that said, don't be mean to people who are trying to lose weight just because you've never been there. Focusing on little details may be a distraction, but for people who are already distracted, it's better than nothing and can eventually escalate to focusing on what's most important. This has happened in my case. I started out focusing on eating healthier foods, but would often eat too much of them... now I've learned to say no to excessive eating, but I would not have been in the right mindset when I was if I had not already been allowing myself to think closely about what I eat. Yeah, this past month I’ve learned to say no in ways I’ve been trying to for basically all my life. Still have more to work on. Saying no is key to self-discipline and, as you say, concentration. Currently I’m saying no to being negative, no to unhealthy/excess foods. Now, that said, don’t be mean to people who are trying to lose weight just because you’ve never been there. Focusing on little details may be a distraction, but for people who are already distracted, it’s better than nothing and can eventually escalate to focusing on what’s most important. This has happened in my case. I started out focusing on eating healthier foods, but would often eat too much of them… now I’ve learned to say no to excessive eating, but I would not have been in the right mindset when I was if I had not already been allowing myself to think closely about what I eat.

]]> By: Alex | YourGoalbook.com http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-476339 Alex | YourGoalbook.com Tue, 28 Sep 2010 21:55:21 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-476339 Great post, Scott. Saying "no" is something many people fail to learn, and is also one of the things that chews up your day until there is only a morsel or two left for yourself left over at the end. Mastering this relatively simple concept can open up heaps of time and opportunity. Alex Work YourGoalBook.com Great post, Scott.

Saying “no” is something many people fail to learn, and is also one of the things that chews up your day until there is only a morsel or two left for yourself left over at the end. Mastering this relatively simple concept can open up heaps of time and opportunity.

Alex Work
YourGoalBook.com

]]> By: Stop Procrastinating http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-446573 Stop Procrastinating Tue, 20 Jul 2010 14:28:34 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-446573 I do love your post! I can relate to this blog very much! I thought saying NO to someone means you are being selfish until I’ve realized that sometimes you should say NO or refuse to do the task. People tend to give you task or projects even it is not actually you specialty or you cannot do it in time or even you don’t how to do that particular task. Sometimes, we should know how to say NO or refuse if you cannot do your 100% effectively and efficiently. I am doing right it now in my job and I can share to you that my stress and pressure are gone because I learned to say NO to my officemates. I hope someone can read this and share something about their 1st experience is saying NO to someone! I do love your post! I can relate to this blog very much!
I thought saying NO to someone means you are being selfish until I’ve realized that sometimes you should say NO or refuse to do the task. People tend to give you task or projects even it is not actually you specialty or you cannot do it in time or even you don’t how to do that particular task. Sometimes, we should know how to say NO or refuse if you cannot do your 100% effectively and efficiently. I am doing right it now in my job and I can share to you that my stress and pressure are gone because I learned to say NO to my officemates. I hope someone can read this and share something about their 1st experience is saying NO to someone!

]]> By: Niro http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-438743 Niro Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:33:53 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-438743 Hey Scott, A great post. The power of focus is so key to our success and happiness, yet life will continue to challenge us. Life happens - but by working out what our "musts" are vs our "shoulds", we can go a long way towards hitting our targets. I love this line too: Saying No is an Unselfish Act - If you don’t put your goals first, nobody else will. So true - thanks for sharing Scott. Cheers, Niro Hey Scott,

A great post. The power of focus is so key to our success and happiness, yet life will continue to challenge us. Life happens – but by working out what our “musts” are vs our “shoulds”, we can go a long way towards hitting our targets.

I love this line too:
Saying No is an Unselfish Act – If you don’t put your goals first, nobody else will.

So true – thanks for sharing Scott.

Cheers, Niro

]]> By: shreevidya http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-410796 shreevidya Wed, 05 May 2010 07:45:09 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-410796 really a nice article on saying no. really a nice article on saying no.

]]> By: Pendix http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-377220 Pendix Wed, 27 Jan 2010 05:13:45 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-377220 The paradox of choice...the more things we say yes to, the less time we have for them. Good read, thanks again Scott! The paradox of choice…the more things we say yes to, the less time we have for them. Good read, thanks again Scott!

]]> By: Baker http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-375720 Baker Tue, 19 Jan 2010 19:21:44 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-375720 Nice post here. I'm pleased to see the list of items that if people could get rid of what would happen. I have made it a priority to delete most of those items that waste a lot of time, that would come to me as a habit...As a result of eliminating those activities, my production has soared. Nice post here. I’m pleased to see the list of items that if people could get rid of what would happen. I have made it a priority to delete most of those items that waste a lot of time, that would come to me as a habit…As a result of eliminating those activities, my production has soared.

]]> By: JDo http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-368175 JDo Wed, 16 Dec 2009 07:50:19 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-368175 Good piece. I need to get my life back in order and this has given me some useful tips. Thanks! Good piece. I need to get my life back in order and this has given me some useful tips. Thanks!

]]> By: Life coaching – Ruthless Focus and the Art of Saying No http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-365545 Life coaching – Ruthless Focus and the Art of Saying No Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:12:43 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-365545 [...] Scott H. Young’s full article, Ruthless Focus and the Art of Saying No This entry was posted in Business Coach, Business Success, Leadership, Life Coach, Personal life [...] [...] Scott H. Young’s full article, Ruthless Focus and the Art of Saying No This entry was posted in Business Coach, Business Success, Leadership, Life Coach, Personal life [...]

]]> By: Jack http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-360558 Jack Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:45:42 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/07/14/ruthless-focus-and-the-art-of-saying-no/#comment-360558 A plain, unvarnished "No" will seem selfish and inconsiderate to those leeches who would drain your time and energy, but explanations will only drain you. Unfortunately, the leeches merely see an explanation as an objection for them to overcome. They will then give you a reason why your explanation is invalid, and pressure you to commit (or honor your commitment). This pressures you into providing another reason for your decision. And the cycle repeats until you run out of reasons and cave in (usually). A plain "No" is much harder to refute, and should therefore be your first line of defense. A plain, unvarnished “No” will seem selfish and inconsiderate to those leeches who would drain your time and energy, but explanations will only drain you. Unfortunately, the leeches merely see an explanation as an objection for them to overcome. They will then give you a reason why your explanation is invalid, and pressure you to commit (or honor your commitment). This pressures you into providing another reason for your decision. And the cycle repeats until you run out of reasons and cave in (usually). A plain “No” is much harder to refute, and should therefore be your first line of defense.

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