Comments on: The Importance of Being Likable http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Aspergers and Social Skills: 10 Keys – Prospering With Aspergers | Prospering with Aspergers http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-576447 Aspergers and Social Skills: 10 Keys – Prospering With Aspergers | Prospering with Aspergers Wed, 22 Dec 2010 05:05:34 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-576447 [...] 1. Say please and thank you. Simple, yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable. [...] [...] 1. Say please and thank you. Simple, yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable. [...]

]]> By: 10 Simple Ways to Be More Likable http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-569755 10 Simple Ways to Be More Likable Fri, 17 Dec 2010 20:40:59 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-569755 [...] 1. Say please and thank you. Simple, yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable.   [...] [...] 1. Say please and thank you. Simple, yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable.   [...]

]]> By: Maria Brilaki http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-380213 Maria Brilaki Sun, 14 Feb 2010 02:38:29 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-380213 That was a great post! I just spent a few days with someone that thinks that being snobbish and judgemental is just "stating the facts". What an undercover cynical approach! I am tired of all those people that think they are strong by not being likable! And I am tired of their attempts to persuade likable people that they are achieving that because they are being hypocrites, not expressing their true selves, so that people will relate to them more. That was a great post!

I just spent a few days with someone that thinks that being snobbish and judgemental is just “stating the facts”. What an undercover cynical approach! I am tired of all those people that think they are strong by not being likable! And I am tired of their attempts to persuade likable people that they are achieving that because they are being hypocrites, not expressing their true selves, so that people will relate to them more.

]]> By: Colin Wright http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-356358 Colin Wright Fri, 18 Sep 2009 18:30:03 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-356358 Really solid post, Scott. I try to explain this to people all the time when I'm doing personal branding coaching, and in a lot of cases people seem to think it's just something that you have or don't. You did a good job of breaking it down, though, so I'll be passing people this way. Especially good that you mentioned the confidence angle, because most jerks that I know really just have low self-confidence and are trying to compensate for it by being abusively dominant toward others. It's a shame that they don't realize how much damage they are doing to their reputation. Really solid post, Scott. I try to explain this to people all the time when I’m doing personal branding coaching, and in a lot of cases people seem to think it’s just something that you have or don’t.

You did a good job of breaking it down, though, so I’ll be passing people this way. Especially good that you mentioned the confidence angle, because most jerks that I know really just have low self-confidence and are trying to compensate for it by being abusively dominant toward others. It’s a shame that they don’t realize how much damage they are doing to their reputation.

]]> By: The importance of a sutra? Sutra Magazine Explains | new book magazine http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-356195 The importance of a sutra? Sutra Magazine Explains | new book magazine Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:02:16 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-356195 [...] The Importance of Being Likable « Scott H Young [...] [...] The Importance of Being Likable « Scott H Young [...]

]]> By: Scott Young http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-356021 Scott Young Thu, 17 Sep 2009 11:23:26 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-356021 Tracey, Likability is an alternative spelling of likeability: http://www.google.fr/search?hl=fr&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=19Z&q=define%3A+likability&btnG=Rechercher&meta=lr%3Dlang_en (review the first entry). Alina, Correct. My proofreading skills leave something to be desired... -Scott Tracey,

Likability is an alternative spelling of likeability: http://www.google.fr/search?hl=fr&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=19Z&q=define%3A+likability&btnG=Rechercher&meta=lr%3Dlang_en (review the first entry).

Alina,

Correct. My proofreading skills leave something to be desired…

-Scott

]]> By: Faramarz - Anxious Candy http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-355963 Faramarz - Anxious Candy Thu, 17 Sep 2009 06:56:51 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-355963 This is very true - the only way to get anywhere in the world is if everyone around you is willing to kill themselves to get your favor. By being likable, confident etc you can build up massive networks of people that you can use to propel yourself further than the average person. It definately doesn't pay to be a curmudgeon p.s thanks for mentioning the fountain head it's my favorite all time book, and Howard for all his flaws and struggles does actually "win" in the end. This is very true – the only way to get anywhere in the world is if everyone around you is willing to kill themselves to get your favor. By being likable, confident etc you can build up massive networks of people that you can use to propel yourself further than the average person. It definately doesn’t pay to be a curmudgeon

p.s thanks for mentioning the fountain head it’s my favorite all time book, and Howard for all his flaws and struggles does actually “win” in the end.

]]> By: Aatash http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-355936 Aatash Thu, 17 Sep 2009 04:47:25 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-355936 My government teacher is big on this exact thing. He calls it building "social capital". I'm not sure if that's a commonly used term, but if you want to read more about it, he actually writes a column in a local newspaper - check out the article for 3/31/07 on this page: http://www.what-it-takes.com/article_archive.php My government teacher is big on this exact thing. He calls it building “social capital”.

I’m not sure if that’s a commonly used term, but if you want to read more about it, he actually writes a column in a local newspaper – check out the article for 3/31/07 on this page: http://www.what-it-takes.com/article_archive.php

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]]> By: Julian http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2009/09/16/the-importance-of-being-likable/comment-page-1/#comment-355856 Julian Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:00:06 +0000 http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/?p=1006#comment-355856 I think of likeability as a by-product of leading a good life, rather than a goal in itself. p.s. Top marks for using the word 'orthogonal' ;) I think of likeability as a by-product of leading a good life, rather than a goal in itself.
p.s. Top marks for using the word ‘orthogonal’ ;)

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