If You’re So Smart, Why is Your Life Still a Mess?

Is intelligence your downfall?

Normally, more intelligence is a good thing. Yes, we all know examples of the anxious overthinker or the scholastic introvert who can’t get a date. But, for the most part, being smarter helps in life.

However, I’ve noticed one problem that mostly strikes really smart people. The smarter you are, the more likely you are to suffer from this problem. Worse, this problem is often the very reason many smart people fail miserably at improving their lives.

Smart People Like Tricky Problems (Even if Most are Actually Simple)

The problem is that smart people like solving complicated problems. When faced with a problem that is difficult, but doesn’t have a complex answer, they invent complexity. Instead of focusing on the essentials and making progress, they become trapped in irrelevant details.

Take your health, for example. Health advice isn’t complicated. Michael Pollan summarized the some of the best nutritional advice I’ve ever read into only seven words: eat food, not too much, mostly plants.

Why do Smart People Make Health Advice So Confusing?

Health advice is simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Eating less junk food, having a regular exercise routine, and eating the side of broccoli instead of that third cheeseburger. All of these things are well-known by almost every reasonably intelligent person, but it takes a lot of patience and effort to succeed.

But is this what most smart people do? No. Instead, they invent complexity, purposely making the task less simplistic, even when there is no good reason for the added confusion.

Ben Goldacre writes in the book Bad Science, about the abysmal state of nutritional information. He points out many of the reported claims of fish-oil and supplements are based on flawed research. In The China Study, T. Colin Campbell, points out that many vitamin and mineral pills don’t result in better overall health.

Despite this, how often do you see someone arguing about Omega-3 or the immunological benefits of garlic, when they don’t exercise regularly? Or someone who argues whether anaerobic training is better than running, but they still have a cupboard full of junk food?

Is Money Really that Complicated?

The problem goes way deeper than nutrition. As Ramit writes about personal finance:

“Nothing is more infuriating than someone telling me I’m ‘throwing away money on rent’ when they haven’t spent even 2 hours running the numbers.

“Or someone who proudly proclaims that they found a higher interest rate on a new bank, which is giving them 2%!!! When you politely say, Wow! How much is that worth? they get very very quiet…because (1) they never thought about it, and (2) you know that an extra 1% is only worth $8/month for a $10,000 balance.”

Personal finance isn’t terribly complicated. Yes, there is the underlying complexity of portfolio theory, CAPM, arbitrage and a whole host of other formulas you’d need a PhD in physics to understand. Beneath that, though, for most individuals, personal finance breaks down to:

  1. Spending less than you earn.
  2. Save and invest a portion of your income.

If you’re doing those two things, you’re probably well ahead of most people, and probably still ahead of the many “smart” people Ramit mentions who lecture you on the merits of home ownership and getting the extra tenth of a percent interest rate.

Is Learning a Foreign Language Complicated?

The same thing happens in language learning. I’ve heard from people that are quick to correct me on the nuances of a particular word in French. Even when these people don’t invest the time practicing to speak and reading frequently, so they can’t hold up a conversation.

Read, listen, speak. Difficult, but fairly simple.

Same thing happens in blogging. Nothing irritates me more than bloggers who debate about where to put their subscription button, but haven’t written regularly in the last three months.

Write regularly, share with other bloggers. It’s not easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s complex.

Imagined complexity

Complexophilia – Why You’re Life Can Be a Mess, Even if You’re Smart

Complexophilia – n. The love of making things complicated.

Many smart people are raging complexophiles. They look for complexity, and when the correct answers are too simple, they invent more complicated versions of them.

There is a logic to it, and the mentality goes something like this:

Problem A is incredibly difficult (losing weight, starting a business or teaching yourself a foreign language).

The successful approach to A is, unfortunately, relatively simple. (eat less, create value, start reading and speaking)

Because the problem is difficult, it will require a lot of effort and patience to succeed. But, because the problem is simple, it doesn’t require all the incredible brainpower and abstract reasoning that smart people are so good at.

At this point, the complexophile comes up with an alternative: Maybe that successful approach to A is simple, but I can probably come up with one that is more complicated (which is why stupider people haven’t found it) and also easier.

So they invent or stumble upon an alternative strategy that requires them to understand the nuances of free-radicals, short-selling or linguistic theory, and makes the problem more complex. These people can then stroke their ego for being so much more clever than everyone else.

Unfortunately, as a consequence of them taking up the needlessly complicated approach, they forget the basics. If they focused on free-radicals while maintaining their focus on overall healthy eating and exercise, that would be fine. But more likely, this new complicated focus replaces the more simplistic, successful approach.

As a result, you have people swallowing fish-oil pills who haven’t exercised in months, and people buying penny stocks who aren’t even matching their employer’s 401k contribution. The complexity doesn’t add to the successful simplicity, it overwrites the successful simplicity.

Problems Can be Difficult Without Being Complicated

Saying that the secret to health is just eating less junk and more greens does health a disservice. Mostly because people confuse simple answers with easy answers. In fact, for smart people, simple answers are often the most difficult, because there are fewer loopholes to get out of putting in the effort.

Running a marathon is simple. You put one foot after the other and repeat for 26 miles. But that doesn’t mean running one is easy.

Recognizing that there are a large class of life problems that (a) have simple answers, yet (b) are still really difficult, is important.

It’s okay to say to yourself, “I know what to do, but it’s still very hard.” Accepting the simplicity/difficulty conjunction allows you to put your focus on it, instead of fantasizing about Omega-3’s and syntactical oddities that don’t solve the core problem.

Basics first

Putting in the Grueling Effort on the Absolute Basics

If you’re like me, and see yourself as being someone with complexophilic tendencies, there is a solution: commit to putting in the grueling effort on the absolute basics, first.

That is, you know what the #1 step you should be taking for success. Before you debate minutia, you make sure you’re putting in the effort on step #1.

This means not opening a book on different workout routines until you’re going to the gym every day. Stop reading the sites on dating advice if you’re not going out and socializing with people regularly. Forget step #15 when you still haven’t mastered step #1.

I find it helps to know what my #1 thing is for any area of my life:

  • Fitness -> Going to the gym at least 4x per week.
  • Health -> Not eating junk food.
  • Blogging -> Sticking to my writing schedule.
  • School -> Showing up to every class.
  • Languages -> Speaking and reading, every day.
  • Money -> Spending less than I earn.
  • Social Life -> Meeting with friends a few times per week.

Is the #1 step enough to succeed? Usually not. But I know that if I’m not following through on step #1, I don’t need to look further if I’m not reaching my goals.

Be the Absolute Best at Step #1

A long time ago, I heard a story about a famous basketball coach. When he would have a new team member, he would ask them to do a simple lay-up. He would then tell them to practice that every day, since it would be the shot they make the most.

Being able to shoot 3-pointers doesn’t matter if you haven’t mastered the lay-up. This coach understood that greatness started by being the best at the bare essentials.

Figuring out exactly what your #1 is can take some time. For some areas there might be a few items tied for first place. But picking which step is first only takes an hour or two. Becoming the absolute best at it takes years of hard work.

What is your #1 step right now? Have you mastered it? Share your responses in the comments.

Images thanks to Drewski Mac, kelsey, and blhphotography respectively.

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  • http://fabirco.org/ Fabir

    good I fount out why my life is still a mess, Thanks Your blog is been turning one of my favorites.

  • david t

    Its funny how often people who wear their atheism on their sleeve have to pretend they are smarter than everyone else, even when they are wrong.

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  • Joe

    It’s simple to fix my life, only, is it really that simple? I believe it is. Then why is it so damn hard?

  • anon

    You need to broaden your view of what “smart” means because you’re attributing a lot of your own personal behaviorisms to smart people in general, which is both ignorant and egocentric. You sound more like a technical person than a smart person, which is not to say that you can’t also be smart, but it does mean that your views are kind of childish and undeveloped at this point. Become more humble and open to the possibility that there are people out there who are different from you.

  • Nicolas

    Well, you lost me at “you’re life can be a mess” and English is not even my mother tongue.

  • Amit Raya

    In our country this problem is called paralysis by analysis…when you over analyse and fail to take one simple step towards accomplishment of the task…very well written blog totally agree with the logic

  • mocoast

    Not only do intelligent people fall into that trap. Also the less intelligent follow the intelligent doing that. We learn that in school, that’s the problem. Just finished an econometrics class: Maximum 3-level thinking explained in complex words. I hate going to university.

  • Tausif

    Learning a second language means one has more knowledge of vocabulary than a regular people but it doesn’t mean that the regular guy do not know anything about it. The people who are able to speak a second language are not smarter than the people who know about the language but do not speak. Like, my friend who can not speak English quite well but it does not mean he is stupid or less informed. I got much help from many resources like magazine, books, newspaper and especially searching the web. I found many information about English from: http://www.talkenglish.com/. Don’t think someone a dumb in something unless he is aware of that thing. Thanks for providing such information, Scott.

  • Nafiur Saad

    I agree with the context of this article. I faced much complications when i first started to learn English. Instead of solving those problems, I made them more complicated by trying to do everything at once. So I stopped and started to go step-wise. I did a lot of studying in English, did a few courses. And I also surfed the internet a lot and collected a few good English learning page links, which helped me to learn English well. For example, I got much help from this site> http://www.learnenglish.de/

    Mainly, the point where you said, “Be the Absolute Best at Step #1” worked as a great motivation for me. Thanx! Keep up the good work!

  • Concerned_Citizen

    You have some solid logic here. I’m planning on sticking around and seeing what else you’re up to, so far I’m liking what I’m seeing.