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One of the best techniques to temporarily control your emotions is simply to fake them. Feigning courage when you\u2019re scared can make you feel more confident. Faking enthusiasm when you\u2019re down can give you the extra push you need to keep going. Acting happy can get you out of a brief emotional slump.<\/p>\n
Why would you want to fake your state? The emotional state you have at any particular time will have a tremendous impact on your effectiveness. Your speech will sound more convincing and effective if you\u2019re speaking with confidence rather than trembling with nervousness. State control is essential for communication because people want to be around people who feel good. Even personal activities like exercise, work and reading benefit from the right emotional background. The way you feel determines how effectively you act.<\/p>\n
The idea of faking your state can seem a little like cheating. Aren\u2019t your emotions there for a reason? But few people recognize how malleable their moment-to-moment feelings are. If you\u2019re caught up in a lousy thinking pattern and someone gives you a small compliment, what happens? You\u2019re entire world changes. As soon as your focus shifts from a small negative to a small positive you start feeling good.<\/p>\n
In the long-run our emotional well-being is relatively smooth. But in the short-run emotions often fluctuate heavily. Depending on what you focus on you could feel the range of depression, anger, joy and pride all in the same day. Faking your state can\u2019t change your life but it can change how you are responding right now.<\/p>\n
The fastest way to fake your emotional state is to change how your holding your body. Being a social animal, human beings constantly project their emotional state onto their body. When someone is depressed, you can see it. When someone is enthusiastic, isn\u2019t it immediately obvious as well.<\/p>\n
If you decide you need to feel confident, start by holding your body like a confident person would. Talk with the same inflection. Hold your posture up straight and smile. Pretend you are an actor playing a character that reeks of confidence.<\/p>\n
In the first minute or two, adopting a body language that differs from your internal state might be a little tricky. You will need to practice acting this way so you can sustain the change until you start feeling the associated emotion. Usually after only a few minutes, you will start to feel a lot closer to what you are projecting. After particularly emotional scenes, many actors often feel the emotions of their characters as a lasting imprint. You can do the same.<\/p>\n
Adopting body language is a good start, but in particularly intense emotional states it often isn\u2019t enough. Your thinking patterns are so overwhelming that a simply posture change won\u2019t change their flow. When this happens you need to take the next step of faking it. Think like a character with the emotion you want would think.<\/p>\n
This is more difficult than body language, but with practice it is doable. If you\u2019re feeling nervous, holding your body in a confident posture and affirming to yourself that you will be successful can do the trick. Changing your thinking patterns is definitely a more advanced skill, but this mental discipline can be invaluable when you find yourself in a deeply entrenched state.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s about doing good. A common mistake people make is that they want to change their emotional state to feel better. Remember that emotions are nothing more than chemicals and signals you are giving yourself. Your brain wouldn\u2019t be giving them to you if it didn\u2019t think you needed them.<\/p>\n
The emotional part of your brain wasn\u2019t designed to make you feel happy \u2013 it was designed to help you survive. Although most emotions are no longer matters of survival for the human species, your brain is still adapted to give you the emotions it believes will be the most effective.<\/p>\n
Your goal with state control is to shift your emotional state into the most effective state. Trying to simply shift out of uncomfortable emotions because you don\u2019t like them is likely to backfire. But shifting into emotional states you truly believe will be more effective can.<\/p>\n
What makes an effective state differs depending on the situation. In social settings, an effective state can often be enthusiasm, fun or playfulness. Other situations might require courage, motivation or willpower. Trying to calm yourself down before a speech often doesn\u2019t work because your brain wants you to focus. Picking an emotion like enthusiasm or being alert is more likely to hold.<\/p>\n
Faking emotional states allows you to temporarily change your emotions. Long-term emotional change requires you to actually change the situation or your perception of it. If you can\u2019t motivate yourself to work on a project day after day, the problem might be that the project simply doesn\u2019t inspire you.<\/p>\n
Emotional faking is like temporarily inserting a dam to change the flow of a river. It can give you an abrupt shift in the flow, but it won\u2019t alter the current. You\u2019re better off changing the terrain that creates your emotional flow if you want to completely change the direction. But sometimes what you need is a dam. When you\u2019re terrified of that presentation or procrastinating your work, faking it can give you the extra push you need.<\/p>\n
Your success is determined from how you feel, how you think and how you act. These three things form a looping circle. Changing how you feel will alter how you think and act and ultimately, your results. Don\u2019t let minor frustrations or disappointments break your positive spiral. Don’t fake it until you make it, but at least fake it until you feel it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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