{"id":6650,"date":"2017-01-04T08:11:43","date_gmt":"2017-01-04T15:11:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/?p=6650"},"modified":"2018-03-29T13:02:02","modified_gmt":"2018-03-29T20:02:02","slug":"first-see-the-circle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/2017\/01\/04\/first-see-the-circle\/","title":{"rendered":"First, See the Circle"},"content":{"rendered":"

I really enjoyed the first season of HBO\u2019s Westworld<\/a>. I\u2019m a fan of the robots-who-might-be-conscious-vs-exploitative-humans trope in all its many incarnations, but I felt this show did a particularly good job.<\/p>\n

The reason I liked it most was the constant uncanny valley between spontaneous and scripted behavior. Without spoiling anything, the show does a masterful job of continually tricking you into believing something is improvised before showing that it was a script all along.<\/p>\n

While the point of these tricks are supposed to keep you uncertain about the consciousness and free will of the robot protagonists, I think the insight equally applies to how ordinary human beings are following scripts. What feels like a genuine improvisation may be a stale pattern you\u2019ve already played out before without realizing it.<\/p>\n

What are Your Scripts?<\/h2>\n

I often get emails about someone enthusiastic about a new goal. They write paragraphs of text on their ideas, inspirations and motivations. But, somewhere near the end, they sneak in that, actually, they\u2019ve had a hard time following through on similar goals in the past.<\/p>\n

But what makes this time any different?<\/em><\/p>\n

Idea, enthusiasm, a few bursts of momentum, frustration and then quitting. A circular script they run time and time again.<\/p>\n

Not all circles are bad. Circles underlie much of how we function. Work too hard and you\u2019ll need a break. Break for too long and you\u2019re itching to do something. Wake, sleep. Relax, focus. All circles.<\/p>\n

What strikes me about the circles isn\u2019t so much whether they\u2019re good or bad but that we rarely see their shape. Like the Westworld androids, we can\u2019t see our scripts even when they should be obvious. Something in our self concept obscures or censors the circularity of our actions.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not sure why this appears to be so. It might be that circles persist best when unseen, so naturally the ones in our blind spots tend to last longer. It may be that our ego protects the idea of our autonomy by focusing on the idiosyncratic reasons for each cycle\u2019s existence and ignoring their persistent shape.<\/p>\n

A New Year, A New Circle<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re reading this when I wrote it (January 2017) you might be planning a New Year\u2019s Resolution. This circle, and the ruins of continually broken resolutions, should be particularly obvious because it\u2019s tied to an even more obvious circle of the annual calendar.<\/p>\n

Seeing that resolutions often fail can lead to a cynical perspective. If everything fails, why try? The only people who invest in personal improvement are morons who can\u2019t see the futility of their actions. The smart money, therefore, is on not even trying to better yourself to avoid the embarrassment.<\/p>\n

I understand this desire, but it goes too far. Just because change is hard, and often fails, doesn\u2019t mean it is never worthwhile. And, despite the many struggles, we do genuinely make improvements in our lives some of the time.<\/p>\n

A better approach is not to abandon trying, but to first try to see the circle. Instead of following it, or pretending it doesn\u2019t exist, try to see its shape. What is the pattern you follow and why? What cascade of behavior leads to a result you dislike and how can you try it again a little differently?<\/p>\n

Seeing the circle doesn\u2019t always free you of it. But ignoring the circle never does.<\/p>\n

Some of My Circles<\/h2>\n

I\u2019m not immune to circles and I frequently get caught in their swirl.<\/p>\n

One I occasionally fall into is believing that I\u2019ll exercise from home. I\u2019ll be in a new location for awhile, and not have an easy option to go to the gym. So, I\u2019ll tell myself that I\u2019ll work out from home\u2014push ups, sit ups, maybe go jogging.<\/p>\n

Except I never keep it up. I exercise once or twice from home. Often for only ten minutes before I realize I hate doing this, give up early and then find excuses for every other subsequent time.<\/p>\n

This realization isn\u2019t a big one\u2014it just means I need to get a gym pass somewhere convenient or I\u2019m unlikely to exercise. But, I fall into it time and again of thinking \u201cthis time it will be different.\u201d I convince myself that, unlike in the past, I’ll take it seriously and really work out from home, even though that was what I said the previous times too.<\/p>\n

Some circles are more stubborn. When I was in my late teens, and I would hit it off with a girl I liked, I tended to get overly interested, scare her off, feel depressed about it and then repeat a few months later. I recognized the circle a few years before I was able to mature enough to overcome it, and it wasn\u2019t easy.<\/p>\n

See Your Circles<\/h2>\n

My advice for this new year is to look for your circles. Not to ignore your big goals or dreams, but just to take a step back and see the circles that ran your 2016, 2015 and before. If you see yourself starting the circle again and you don\u2019t like where it leads, ask yourself what you could do differently that you haven\u2019t tried before.<\/p>\n

If you normally hesitate until the opportunity is lost\u2014try starting small immediately. If you get consumed by big visions and burn out on the little details\u2014try starting with getting a little brick in place before building the entire structure. If you juggle too many goals and fail to follow-through, try pursuing only one.<\/p>\n

Your circles in life might have a quick escape, or they may take years of trial-and-error until you can break the pattern. Some circles might be so ingrained that they must be accepted instead of overcame.<\/p>\n

But the first step is to see that they exist.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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