{"id":8237,"date":"2019-01-21T10:00:15","date_gmt":"2019-01-21T17:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/?p=8237"},"modified":"2019-01-21T13:01:09","modified_gmt":"2019-01-21T20:01:09","slug":"change-what-you-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/2019\/01\/21\/change-what-you-like\/","title":{"rendered":"Can You Change What You Like?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is it possible to change the things you like to do? The ambitions you have and the hobbies you\u2019re interested in? Or are these things fixed and you just need to work around your likes and dislikes?<\/p>\n

I think this is an important question.<\/p>\n

If your likes are changeable, perhaps you can make the things you have to do more enjoyable, so you\u2019ll be more likely to achieve other goals.<\/p>\n

Imagine you’re an introvert. You hate social events. Yet, you need to network for your career and meet people to find a partner. Obviously, it would be easier for you if you could make yourself \u201clike\u201d socializing. Even if you could only dislike it a little less, that could still make the socializing you need to do far easier.<\/p>\n

Similarly, if you \u201chate\u201d math, but notice that a lot of the good careers are in STEM fields, can you train yourself to like it? Maybe the hatred you have for math is just an after-effect of bad early experiences, which you can overcome by having more success with it?<\/p>\n

Two Views of Human Preferences<\/h2>\n

There\u2019s two broad answers to this question. The first says our likes and preferences are fixed. The second says they\u2019re mostly learned, and thus can be modified with experience.<\/p>\n

Of course, there\u2019s more scenarios than just these two, but I think these are useful ones to compare.<\/p>\n

Why Might Your Likes and Dislikes Be Fixed?<\/h3>\n
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Many of the things we like and dislike, may be instinctive. Human beings tend to dislike bitter foods, fear heights and darkness, and prefer cute, cuddly things to spiders. These are probably not the result of culture, but of innate preferences encoded within us.<\/p>\n

Other things are also probably fixed, or at the very least, very difficult to change in terms of preferences. Personality attributes, such as introversion or appetite for risk, may be a lot harder to change than whether you like a particular food or hobby.<\/p>\n

Another reason preferences might become fixed is simply because we tend to do things that reinforce our existing preferences.<\/p>\n

If I\u2019m bad at math in Grade Three, and develop a phobia of doing math, I\u2019ll avoid practicing it, which results in further frustrations, which makes me less and less likely to get good at math. Without the confidence that comes from past successes<\/a>, my dislike of math, which may have only been mildly pre-programmed, becomes almost insurmountable.<\/p>\n

Like water carving a path through the mountainside, the flow of our lives sculpts patterns that can be very hard to overcome. Willpower may not be enough, if the path is too deeply trodden.<\/p>\n

Why Might You Be Able to Change What You Like?<\/h3>\n

Despite this pessimism, there\u2019s also a lot of evidence for a remarkable range of learned behaviors across human cultures.<\/p>\n

Bitter foods, while an innate dislike, end up becoming a counter-example, when you consider coffee. The beverage is bitter, but because it is paired with caffeine, a mildly-addictive drug, the flavor can actually become so positively reinforced that people will drink it without the caffeine.<\/p>\n

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If something aversive gets consistently paired with something more rewarding, it may overcome it\u2019s natural gravity and become enjoyable on its own. Similarly, we may be able to consciously change our likes or push through dislikes by pairing them with things we do enjoy or care about.<\/p>\n

Change Your Likes, or Accept Your Constraints?<\/h2>\n

Beyond the factual matter of whether or not changing your likes is possible (or whether it\u2019s possible with any particular set of likes and dislikes), there\u2019s the question of whether it is worth doing.<\/p>\n

At the very least, training yourself to like something you currently don\u2019t, is going to be an uphill battle.<\/p>\n

Either you\u2019re hoping that you\u2019ll overcome some kind of frustration barrier\u2014pushing against something you dislike because of negative feedback until you get good enough at it that this feeling goes away.<\/p>\n

Or you\u2019re hoping that you\u2019ll pair the thing you dislike with something you like even more. Maybe giving yourself a reward, or punishing yourself for failing to go through with it. This is also difficult, since if the pairing is voluntary, there\u2019s always a chance you\u2019ll give up before the association is complete.<\/p>\n

For some things, this effort may not be worth it. If you dislike math, maybe it\u2019s better to just avoid using math than push yourself to enjoy it. If you prefer to stay home than socialize, maybe you just accept this drag on your career and relationships.<\/p>\n

However, for other things, I think the effort to self-modify your preferences may be worth it. Not only for achieving some kind of extrinsic benefit, say by overcoming a dislike to reach a particular goal, but also to expand the things you enjoy doing. Cultivating more likes, whether they\u2019re food, hobbies, people or activities, makes life richer, so to the extent those things can be modified, it\u2019s probably a net-benefit to do that.<\/p>\n

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What do you think? Have you trained yourself to enjoy something you didn\u2019t before? Were you successful? Share your experiences in the comments.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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