{"id":907,"date":"2009-03-02T12:28:12","date_gmt":"2009-03-02T19:28:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/02\/humility-is-more-important-than-confidence\/"},"modified":"2018-04-03T08:34:07","modified_gmt":"2018-04-03T15:34:07","slug":"humility-is-more-important-than-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/02\/humility-is-more-important-than-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"Humility is More Important Than Confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"

Humility is an underrated virtue. For every ten articles I see written about how to improve self-confidence, I only see one that suggests humility might be important at all. I did a quick Google search of \u201cimproving confidence\u201d and came up with 9,580,000 results. I did another search with \u201cimproving humility\u201d and only got 499,000 results.<\/p>\n

Humility is an asset for self-improvement. By remaining humble, you are receptive to opportunities to improve. If I suggest a way you might triple your business, you have to accept the possibility that your current way of doing things is costing you 2\/3’s of your potential revenue. Only with humility can you allow this incredible advice to sink in.<\/p>\n

Beyond personal success, humility is also a virtue for inner well-being. Frustrations and losses don\u2019t have the same impact if you don\u2019t get your ego involved. If you combine humility with motivation, you have the ability to drive towards successes without letting the failures knock you out of balance.<\/p>\n

\u00c2\u00a0<\/span>Don\u2019t Confuse Confidence With Skill<\/h2>\n

I think a lot of the misguided advice towards improving confidence actually has to do with improving skill. I\u2019ve heard before, \u201cI want to be a more confident public speaker.\u201d To which I mentally reply, \u201cDo you really want to be more confident? Or do you just want to be a better <\/em>speaker?\u201d Frankly, I\u2019d rather listen to a humble, but fantastic speaker, than an arrogant bore.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately some people believe skill and confidence are the same thing.<\/p>\n

The same happens with social skills. Some people claim to want to be more confident with other people or relationships. But do they really? Or do they simply want to have better <\/em>social skills. Confidence without skill would just mean that the person is oblivious to the negative reactions from other people.<\/p>\n

Doesn\u2019t Confidence Create Skill?<\/h2>\n

There are some areas where confidence is used as a signal. If a speaker is confident, I\u2019ll believe she is more skilled. This is partially because I take her confidence as a signal of a deeper, but harder to detect, skill level.<\/p>\n

While I believe confidence can have a signaling effect, I think the reason confidence is so sought after has an easier explanation. Skilled people have many successes, many successes create confidence. So, when looking at successful people, we also see confident people. Confidence didn\u2019t create the success, it is just a natural extension of that success.<\/p>\n

Skill creates both success and confidence. Short-circuiting the process by putting confidence before skill can have a temporary effect in signaling, but it usually doesn\u2019t work. Confidence can\u2019t make you a better mathematician, so why do people believe it is the only necessary ingredient for being a better presenter, writer or salesperson?<\/p>\n

Does Confidence Make You Happy?<\/h2>\n

The second reason confidence is sought after, beyond its charisma building properties, is that it feels good to be confident. Standing up on a stage lacking confidence can make you feel sick. With confidence, however, you can love giving a presentation.<\/p>\n

I would disagree with this perception, because once again, I think it\u2019s easy to confuse correlation with causation. I believe skill, not blind confidence, creates a sense of well-being performing a task. When I have skill, I\u2019ll get the feedback I desire from my actions. Like the skilled painter, every brush stroke gives the desired visual effect. This positive feedback cycle gives far greater rewards than a false sensation of confidence.<\/p>\n

Confidence is Overrated<\/h2>\n

I\u2019m not willing to completely discount confidence, but I believe it is overrated. As a signaling tool and as a technique for well-being, I feel it is a short-term cure at best. Confidence without corresponding skill isn\u2019t worth the effort to generate.<\/p>\n

Humility, however, is a valuable perspective. Humility isn\u2019t the same as low self-confidence. Confidence and self-esteem imply a certainty in your actions. If you have high confidence, you predict you will be successful. If you have low confidence, you predict you will fail.<\/p>\n

Humility doesn\u2019t need to imply any particular skill level. Being humble is about being open to the possibility of improvement. While confidence is a scale predicting success, humility is an absence allowing for growth.<\/p>\n

Humble Confidence<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s in this sense that humble confidence isn\u2019t an oxymoron. If you are skilled at something, you can be confident in your level of success, but also humble enough to realize there is still a great deal of room to advance.<\/p>\n

After running this website for three years, I\u2019m confident that I\u2019ll get positive feedback from writing a book or article. But I also realize that the upward room for growth is tremendous. By seeing similar authors reaching millions of people with an even greater impact, I\u2019m aware of my own room for growth.<\/p>\n

Have Humility Without Confidence<\/h2>\n

Obviously, if you have experience, humble confidence is the way to go. It gives you a sense of satisfaction in your work while leaving you open to new opportunities. But, if you\u2019re just starting out in a new field you might not have the level of skill you desire. In this case, I say the best route is to focus on humility without worrying about your level of confidence.<\/p>\n

Many people try to shortcut the painful beginners process by \u201cfaking\u201d a greater level of confidence than their skills will allow. For a short time this might even work. But soon, the negative feedback will undermine your false sense of confidence and it will be difficult to sustain. The fall down from confidence may even make you feel even less confident than before.<\/p>\n

Worse, faking confidence undermines humility. By assuming a level of confidence above your skill, you cut off opportunities to learn. Instead of recognizing feedback and calibrating from it, you must ignore it. Humility fosters growth, false confidence restricts it.<\/p>\n

When I started this business, humility was a much greater asset than faking confidence. Whenever I tried to fake a confidence level higher than my skills, I was blinded to new opportunities. Instead of trying a better method of writing articles or generating revenue, I\u2019d slide back to my old bad habits.<\/p>\n

Even today, humility is still more important than confidence. Although I\u2019m confident I can achieve a certain level of success with my abilities now, I need to stay humble. Humility allows me to explore new opportunities. What I\u2019ve done to get me here won\u2019t get me to where I want to go.<\/p>\n

Humility, Well-Being and Beginner\u2019s Frustrations<\/h2>\n

I realize the irony and hypocrisy of writing an article about humility. Just by writing, it presupposes I\u2019m an expert. I\u2019m definitely not. I try to keep confidence in perspective, while maintaining humility, but it isn\u2019t easy. Often I fail.<\/p>\n

I understand that the frustrations of being a beginner at anything can make the desire to be confident urgent. When you haven\u2019t built up skill, the failures can be ego-bruising and painful. The response to this is the desire for more confidence. But, I believe this desire is often misguided.<\/p>\n

Humility leads to faster improvement. More importantly, staying humble allows the temporary frustrations to fall off. Trying to maintain a false confidence often may build temporary successes, but it makes every failure harder to recover from.<\/p>\n

Confidence without skill is nothing. Skill without humility is stagnant. Skill with humility creates to confidence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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