{"id":481,"date":"2011-01-14T09:40:19","date_gmt":"2011-01-14T17:40:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/scotthyoung.com\/members\/?p=481"},"modified":"2011-01-14T09:40:19","modified_gmt":"2011-01-14T17:40:19","slug":"ass-kicking-email-how-to-combat-perfectionism-procrastination","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scotthyoung.com\/members\/?p=481","title":{"rendered":"Ass-Kicking Email &#8211; How to Combat Perfectionism Procrastination"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hey,<\/p>\n<p>A work ethic is the values that pride the ability to work hard. I&#8217;d<br \/>\nargue that perhaps more important than a work ethic is a completion<br \/>\nethic&#8211;or the values that pride the ability to complete things.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>Many students I know (perhaps you as well) suffer from<br \/>\nperfectionism procrastination. That is, they never finish anything<br \/>\nbecause they are constantly doubting themselves on whether it is<br \/>\ngood enough to say, &#8220;Done!&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>This perfectionism wouldn&#8217;t be too bad on its own, except that it<br \/>\nfosters a mean streak of procrastination. Not only do these people<br \/>\nstruggle to get things finished, they often procrastinate to avoid<br \/>\nthe lingering feelings of doubt about their abilities.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>Defeating Perfectionism Procrastination<\/p>\n<p>The key to defeating this monster is to develop a completion ethic.<br \/>\nThat is, you need to start valuing and rewarding yourself for<br \/>\ncompleting tasks and projects&#8211;not just doing things perfectly or<br \/>\nup to high standards&#8211;but getting things finished.<\/p>\n<p>The first step in developing that ethic is simply to recognize that<br \/>\nbeing done matters. Yes&#8211;you can be sloppy and get poor results.<br \/>\nHowever, it&#8217;s far worse to delay serious work until a deadline<br \/>\nforces you to finish.<\/p>\n<p>The next step is to start organizing your life in ways that reward<br \/>\ncompletion.<\/p>\n<p>Weekly\/Daily Goals is an excellent system for this, since it<br \/>\nencourages you to close open loops and check-off any to-do list<br \/>\nitems. Instead of engaging in continuous work, you&#8217;re forced to<br \/>\nsee learning as a series of tasks from start to finish.<\/p>\n<p>The final step is to gain confidence in your ability and in your<br \/>\napproach.<\/p>\n<p>Since perfectionism procrastination often stems from doubt about<br \/>\nyour abilities, being more confident can be the remedy. The problem<br \/>\nis that true confidence isn&#8217;t easily obtained. You can&#8217;t just tell<br \/>\nyourself, &#8220;I&#8217;m confident,&#8221; and expect that to be a replacement for<br \/>\nthe real thing.<\/p>\n<p>Surprisingly, the best way I&#8217;ve found to overcome this problem is<br \/>\nby failing. Deliberately failing can help you overcome your<br \/>\ninhibitions about completing your work.<\/p>\n<p>Before anyone gets in a mess about getting expelled from school or<br \/>\nthat they need perfect grades to get into the university they want,<br \/>\nI&#8217;m not talking about failing your classes.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, I&#8217;m talking about failing in low-cost ways.<\/p>\n<p>For example&#8211;let&#8217;s say you&#8217;re writing an essay (a dreadful task<br \/>\nfor the perfectionist).<\/p>\n<p>One way you can build confidence here is by writing a terrible<br \/>\nessay. Punctuation and grammar will be bad. The thesis will be<br \/>\nmuddled. Your statements will lack proper citations.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s now you&#8217;re first draft. Only after you&#8217;ve finished this step<br \/>\nshould you set a second goal to write a better essay.<\/p>\n<p>Another example&#8211;you&#8217;re working on an assignment. Deliberately doing<br \/>\npoorly on the assignment (but getting it completed) and following<br \/>\nit with a second step at refinement can help you overcome your<br \/>\nurge to procrastinate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey, A work ethic is the values that pride the ability to work hard. 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